Lots of advice we see in the realm of body image and eating challenges are quick fixes.

“Eat less, move more!”

Funny though, many of us have done that for years, sometimes decades. Only to find we are not achieving what we want. 

The way we approach healing can be healing in itself.

At least, when we speak of healing that goes beyond a broken leg.

An example:

If someone has challenges around craving sweets after dinner, I could suggest to just not buy the sweets in the first place.

Makes sense, doesn’t it? What isn’t in the house, cannot be eaten. Voilà, problem solved. Quick fix! 👍

Only – since when has this approach truly helped anyone? 

Most of the time, the cravings just get worse, and the next delivery service is only a phone call away.

Rather than approaching your challenges as something that has to be fixed, and fixed fast, my suggestion is a different one.

If you want real change, change that lasts, you will need to learn to befriend yourself, and even learn to befriend the challenge.

Once you see why you have a challenge, once you see how your nervous system came up with brilliant coping mechanisms, you will be able to learn new ways to meet your yet unmet needs.

Your challenges are not here to torture you (even though it feels like that, I know). They are here to show you the way out.

Healing can begin when you allow this perspective to take root.

No quick-fix, but trust me, going slower and deeper will, eventually, get you to where you truly want to be faster. And, more importantly, sustainably.